I made 150 prettily swirled wedding cupcakes last weekend. It had been a long while since I did a larger order of cupcakes but it was satisfying cranking them out, and frosting each with a buttery-sweet perfect swirl.
Marriage – it’s a wild roller coaster ride. I don’t know anyone, my parents included, who have had it super easy. Which is why when someone asked me the other day “what is the key to a happy marriage?” I both laughed and cried inside. I responded that the key is that it’s not always happy. Yes, there are many moments of bliss, laughter, closeness, love. But then everyday life gets in the way. That’s why they say all that stuff about in sickness and health, for better for worse, in good times and bad – those vows are gettin’ y’all ready for LIFE TOGETHER.
So to that person who asked, I said: Listen to each other. Kiss, hug and hold hands – show physical affection. Laugh hysterically together, do things together that you enjoy as a couple. Do things they like simply because you love them, and ask for that in return. It’s give and take. Communicate feelings and take time to listen to your partner. You’re both going to screw up a few times, whether those screw-ups are small or large. Be forgiving, if you’re able. Marriages that look perfect on the outside (or on the internet and blogs) are guaranteed far from perfect. Oh, and when kiddos comes along – make sure you plan nights to yourselves! Pay a babysitter or get an in-law to come over.
Yeah. If only life was as simple, beautiful and perfect as a dark chocolate cupcake… ! Got any marriage or relationship tips you’d like to share? I’m all ears. xo Lyndsay